Like I've said in previous posts, I've always been fat. In my younger years, I was ashamed. As an adult, I'm not. I love my body. But I know that seems completely absurd for 99% of the population who thinks I should hate myself. I look in the mirror naked and I don't hate what I see. My fat belly, big thighs, rolls on my back...I don't hate them. They're me. There's a lot of me & I'm okay with that. Do I think my body needs to be healthier? Yes. And I'm working on that. But we should not be confusing healthiness with body size. Yes, I feel the need to be healthy. But I do not feel the need to be skinny or obsess about my body's physical appearance. Frankly, I'm really fed up with the belief that skinny and healthy are synonymous. Skinny does not = healthy.
I recently had a conversation about plastic surgery. I have always said and maintain to this day that I would not ever have any work done. I wouldn't get a tummy tuck, I wouldn't get gastric bypass, etc. To each her own, but I don't believe in it. I'm bombarded with media everyday (not to mention all the chatter of women), that tell me I should hate my body if I'm not a size 0. Frankly, I just cannot understand the women I see around me every day who have beautiful bodies, that still aren't satisfied with them. It makes me sad. In college, I was the "fat girl" in my social circle. But within that circle, I was the most secure with my body. My friends obsessed w/the way their bodies looked...a size 4 wasn't good enough, a size 2 wasn't good enough. They were always amazed that I didn't join in on the self hatred of the body conversations and made comments about how they admired my confidence. But I could read the underlying message behind those comments...."I can't believe YOU are so confident...you are fat. How can you be fat and confident?"
Do I struggle w/my confidence sometimes? Yes, I do. Of course I do. Especially when there are so many hateful comments about fat people. And there has been a lot going around in the media and in the news lately. According to America, I should hate myself. I shouldn't love my body...how could I possibly?! But at the end of the day, I embrace me. And I don't really care about others opinions of how I look.
If I had one huge wish for all of the women in the world, it would be that we would accept our bodies just the way we are.
Stop with the obsessing about the # on the back of your jeans.
Do not starve yourself.
Do not take those ridiculous weight loss pills.
Love your body.
Love it enough to work on making healthy-by putting healthy food in it and getting exercise.
Love it enough to not make hateful comments about it.
Please ladies...love the skin you're in.
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